How Do You Want to Feel?

Celebrating my 40th birthday during a pandemic limited my options but narrowed my focus on what I really wanted.  I had a radiant, abundant, empowered, soulful day of ease because I planned my day based on how I wanted to feel using my Core Desired Feelings.  

I wanted to feel radiant so I made sure I showered (because who showers everyday during COVID really?) and put on a dress that I loved and wore my grandmother’s ring.  I even applied some sassy red lipstick so I would feel radiant while having a dance party at home with Trevor and our kids.  I wanted to feel abundant so we planned a dreamy and delicious 8 course meal (including German chocolate birthday cake) to make at home.  I wanted to feel empowered so we hiked in the morning to cherish our able bodies and enjoy the rewards of a good sweat session.  I wanted to feel soulful so I cherished the connection and quality time with Trevor and each of my children.  I wanted to feel ease so I basked in all the hard work that Trevor and the kids put into making the meal without me having to lift a finger.  

It was divine, an absolutely lovely day.  I made sure I took care of myself by asking for what I wanted and addressing every feeling and desire that I had.  

Birthdays didn’t used to be like this for me.  I used to get crabby and disappointed that someone wasn’t automatically planning an epic day for me… even though I didn’t really know what an epic day would have been.  My birthday felt like some sort of pressured event where I felt like I should do something awesome to celebrate, but I never took the time to actually think about what I wanted or why.  I was waiting around for someone to surprise me with something amazing without realizing that I was the only person who could decide what that could be.      

It can be easy to feel like your needs should be met by sources outside of yourself, but there’s a significant difference between asking for what you need and expecting your own needs to be revealed to you by anything aside from yourself.  The instigator of your own desires has to be you for true fulfillment.  It doesn’t require a grand gesture or a complicated system… knowing yourself and what you want to feel is the simplest and most direct way to feeling good.  Once you know how you want to feel, you realize that there’s an abundance of opportunities at your feet.    

How do you want to feel?

Well wishes,
Sara